Post-Cancer Romance: Creating Passion with Food

Romance is not an easy thing to attain – or maintain – after breast cancer. Let’s be brutally honest for a minute – when sensual body parts are altered via surgery or meds, it takes a lot of hard work and creativity in the bedroom to overcome that roadblock.

I miss my body parts. I’ve spent a lot of time wishing things could be the way they were prior to breast cancer. Nobody gets that if they haven’t experienced it. Nobody can really understand the Himalayan-sized uphill climb in the bedroom to enjoy physical romance again.

If you’re a survivor who’s struggling in the bedroom, I want to help you get your sexy back again by showing you how to become a ‘creative romantic’.

Have you ever snickered at eating foods as aphrodisiacs? C’mon, how could food actually improve physical intimacy?

Good news. Aphrodisiacs do work – there is science to back it up! Whole foods create healthinesss in our bodies on all levels…even sexually. Certain foods have very positive effects on the libido.

As a breast cancer survivor who may be missing body parts, sexual drive, or self-confidence in the romance department, I highly encourage you to be creative with foods with the one you love. Your tastebuds can become one of your most provocative body parts if you let them.

I’m not saying that food is a cure-all for your scars, or for the sense of loss for your breasts. Nor am I saying that food can turn back the clock to a time when you were not catapulted into early menopuase and its un-sexy side effects.

What I am saying is this – it is possible to reinvent yourself romantically. This may entail being touched in different ways. But remember, you also have 4 other senses besides touch – and you can draw upon all of them to create a new sense of intimacy with your romantic partner. This is where food comes into play. Serve some aphrodisiacs by candlelight, and you’ve got yourself a romantic spark.

I’ll show you what I mean with this sexy pasta dish. We’ll start with pecans. The shape alone is sensuous. The taste is sweet and soft.

Now for the arugula….the taste of excitement. Arugula – also called ‘rocket’ – has been used as an aphrodisiac since at least the first century.

Peppers contain capsaicin, which gets the blood flowing and the nerves tingling.

In ancient times, tomatoes were called ‘love apples’. When you think of the salty, wet burst of flavor in sundried tomatoes, this makes perfect sense.

So where are you now? Feeling a little different than before you started reading? Good.

For once in your life, romance could not be any easier. This recipe is ready in no time. Boil a little, chop a little, done. On to better things…

Provocative Pasta w/Sundried Tomatoes and Pecans

1 box of whole grain spaghetti of your choice
1 cup raw or roasted pecans
1 red or yellow bell pepper (I used leftover baby bell peppers, which come in many colors)
1 c. arugula
8.5 oz. jar of sundried tomatoes in seasoned oil
1/4 c. extra virgin olive oil
Crushed red pepper to taste

Cook pasta according to package directions. Meanwhile, chop pepper into thin strips. Saute pepper strips in 2 tbsp. of olive oil over LOW heat for 2 min. Add arugula and saute 2 more minutes.

Toss all ingredients together. Indulge.

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